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Love without ceremony never lasts long – Sohu interviewed a famous wedding presenter in Chengdu earlier, and she said, "I always advocate wedding ceremonies, and show our respect for our inner feelings." "Sense of ceremony" three words make me remember deeply. What is the sense of ritual in love? It’s the form of your mind, energy, and effort that you put into your emotions. We always wonder why the present feelings are so unreliable Why does the heart say change? Because we pay less and less for love, love cost is getting lower and lower, the human nature is the less pay, the more easily do not cherish, so we did not put a harvest for the feelings of the same thing. The boy looked at a girl and asked directly, "would you like to be my girlfriend?" The girl shook her head. The boys immediately transfer target, thought, true TMD some women love ye not to know good from bad. Maybe miss a good girl like this. On holidays, the girl wants a gift, and the boy says, "isn’t it a broken Festival?" Do you care so much? Too hypocritical! Maybe your girl has cooled down from then on. The first time I saw my parents, I went away with empty hands, and the girl was a little unhappy. The boy said, "there’s so much going on in your house, we never pay attention to it.". Maybe her parents don’t agree with you when you think you’re rude. A good marriage ceremony, the boys straight stood up and said, marry me? The crowd booing to kneel down, the boys seemed to be able to direct anger, marriage has been good, and his pride is trampling on the knees. Maybe the wife is gone. Wedding anniversary, the wife wants a candlelight dinner, red wine with steak. The husband said, "you’re all the kids, damn it. What are they doing?" Maybe your feelings are getting weaker and weaker. We are always in love, getting married, rushing to have children, catching up with the progress of life, but not willing to stop, take a little mind, manage a good feeling. We always find countless excuses, "lazy" and "busy" and "tired", we do not attach importance to each other’s feelings, not to express their feelings, not pay attention to these, we will need the ceremony all the blame for the formalism, will need to operate as the love away like the burden, we want to enjoy some do not need any pay for love. We can recall memories, almost all with the ceremony, confession day, tension and delight in your two people; birthday together, do the birthday party; he gave you the first gift, when you open the excited mood; he will let your father his serious look you over to him, and your heart full of happiness…… It turns out that we need to express our love through rituals; it turns out that we need to make sure that the other party loves each other through a ritual, and that each of us needs this sense of security. And the unprecedented devotion and emotional experience in the ceremony will leave us a sweet memory of love. Some people want to jump out, you say is not true love, true love does not need ceremony, the other party understands. No one doesn’t want to be

没有仪式感的爱情,绝不会长久?-搜狐   前段时间采访成都有名的婚礼主持人,她说:“我一直主张婚礼要有仪式感,展现出我们对于内心情感的尊重。”   “仪式感”三个字让我记忆特别深刻。   爱情里的仪式感是什么?是你在这场感情里投入的心思、精力和努力的表现形式。      我们总是想,为什么现在的感情那么不可靠?为什么人心说变就变?是因为我们为爱情付出的越来越少,爱情的成本越来越低,人类的本性偏偏是付出越少越容易不珍惜,于是我们并没有把一场不劳而获的感情当一回事儿。      男孩子看上一个姑娘,直接问,你愿意当我女朋友吗?姑娘摇摇头。男孩子马上转移了目标,心里想,真TMD不知好歹,爷有的是女人爱。也许就这样错过一个好姑娘。   过节日姑娘想要一份礼物,男孩子说,不就是个破节么?至于这么在意么?太矫情了!也许你的姑娘从此就心凉了。      第一次见父母,空着手就去了,姑娘稍微不高兴,男孩子说,就你们家过场多,我们家从来不讲究这些。也许她父母觉得你没礼貌就不同意你们好了。   好好的一个求婚仪式,男孩子直愣愣站在那里说,嫁给我?众人起哄要跪下,男孩子直接怒了,仿佛能求婚已经不错了,再屈膝就是践踏了他的自尊心。也许准老婆就没了。   结婚纪念日,老婆想吃顿烛光晚餐,红酒配牛排。老公说,你都孩子他妈了还整这些没用的干什么?也许你们的感情就越来越淡了。      我们总是在赶着谈恋爱,赶着结婚,赶着生孩子,赶着人生的进度,却不愿意停下来花一点心思好好经营一段感情。我们总是找了无数借口,“懒得”“忙”“累”,我们不去重视对方的感受,不去表达自己的感情,不肯花心思准备,我们将这些需要用心的仪式统统斥责为形式主义,将需要经营的爱情像累赘一样扔掉,我们想坐享其成一段不需要任何付出的爱情。      可我们能回忆起来的美好记忆,几乎都跟仪式有关,告白的那天,你们两个人的紧张和喜悦;过生日的时候,一起办的生日宴;他送你第一份礼物,你拆开的时候激动的心情;他让你父亲将你交给他时他认真的表情,和你内心满满的幸福……   原来,我们需要通过仪式,来表达我们的爱;原来,我们需要通过仪式,来确定对方爱着,彼此都需要这样的安全感。而仪式中前所未有过的高度投入和情感体验,会为我们留下一段段有关爱的甜蜜记忆。      有人要跳出来说,你说的都不是真爱,真爱是不需要仪式,对方都懂。   没人不想当被爱情砸晕的幸运儿,每个人内心都渴望获得爱的肯定和甜蜜,如若你内心有丰盈的爱,你却从未表达出来过,你的爱人又凭借什么能感受到你的爱呢?爱情不是一句话、一个眼神就心领神会了的,再相爱的人在这个善变的世界也需要不断肯定自己在对方心里的位置,不要自私地忽略爱人的需求,冠以TA不能理解就是不懂事的罪状。      有一句话叫“不愿意给你花钱的人不爱你”,同样要知道的是,不愿意为你花心思的人,也没多少爱。我们都有这样的体验,为了喜欢的人怎样折腾都不会累,不爱才会怕麻烦。   认识一个男孩子,结婚五六年了,每次出差,都会给老婆带礼物。去香港开会免税店买了一瓶老婆常用的乳液,去三亚出差打包了一箱老婆爱吃的芒果,去普吉团队旅游给老婆带了身体乳……他的礼物价值不大却实用。表面看是他带礼物这样的仪式,实则是他走到处处都想着她,而老婆们往往想要的就是这份牵挂。      喜欢一个姑娘不要嘴上说,多喝水多穿衣下雨天带伞都是屁话,赶紧行动追起来,该接送的接送,该买礼物的买礼物,该陪着看病的陪着看病,该表白的表白,需要追和表白的仪式,姑娘才能清楚的知道你是真的喜欢她。      我们明明能做好的事就不要将就,爱情没有将就。   平淡而繁忙的生活总会疲倦,总会厌烦,总会觉得被忽略,每一个仪式感需求的背后,都藏着一颗不安的心,想要的不过是一份爱的表达。      我们过节、求婚、拍婚纱照、筹备婚礼、过纪念日,全部都是我们给爱情的一个又一个肯定的仪式,而我们在这一个又一个的仪式里,能感受到还在被对方所爱,这一个又一个的仪式,让我们更真切踏实地幸福,这一个又一个的仪式,让我们觉得为了彼此再累也甘愿,爱情里的仪式感是定心丸,是保鲜剂,是感情调味剂,是缓除生活疲劳贴。   我不需要“天天都是情人节”,我只需要在绵长的生活里,你偶尔为我用点心。比如说,我们6月份就结婚了,你为我们的婚礼仪式做了多少努力?相关的主题文章: